Working hard on a blog post, finally hitting publish, then seeing that somebody wrote a nasty negative comment about it (or you) is one of the worst feelings in the world.
Not all negative comments are mean. Some are just criticisms of your work, or disagreements with your opinions. But then there are those that were written purely out of hate – with the purpose of making you feel terrible.
And for new bloggers, it can even be so bad that it haunts them forever after. They’ll never forget about it.
In this tutorial, I’m going to shed some light on what negative comments really mean, and how you can deal with them in a positive way.
My experience with negative comments
Not many people know this, but when I first started RankXL, I was extremely nervous. I had built close to 100 blogs before starting RankXL (back in the day when people used to do this kind of thing), but I had never built a “personal blog” where I talked about myself in such a detailed manner.
It was nerve-wrecking to put it lightly. People on the internet can be really mean. If you spend a few minutes reading the comments sections on Facebook or YouTube, you’ll know exactly what I mean.
But in the end, I decided that this blog was more for me than anyone else and I launched it.
Soon after, lo and behold, I got my first negative comment – and it was a nasty one.
I can’t even write it here due to foul language, but basically it told me “F OFF” and stop publishing content since it was garbage.
They even put their name as a curse word, and their email as “[email protected]”.
This was my first experience with negative comments
And it shook me.
Where was this coming from? Why would this person say this to me? What could I have possibly written that would make them do this?
It made me reconsider creating RankXL. It made me scared to publish another blog post in the future. It demotivated me for sure.
But I kept going. I kept publishing blog posts.
And to my surprise, the same person kept commenting. Every blog post I published, I would see a nasty remark full of foul language. It wasn’t a spammy comment either addressed to anyone. It was directly addressed to me.
Each time, I deleted it. I couldn’t email him personally asking why he would say such things because each time, he put the email address as “[email protected]
I didn’t know what to do. It was on my mind 24/7. It was affecting me more than it should have.
Then, I talked to some other bloggers about it.
And I was shocked to hear that they all experienced the same thing, and that I shouldn’t worry about. “Just ignore it” was their advice.
It made me feel better, but it was still a difficult thing to just ignore.
Then I started thinking about what motivations this person would have to leave these comments
In my opinion, they had 1 of 2 reasons.
1. They just hated my face – a common but strange trait in bullies. They just pick their targets based on what they look like. I posted my picture on my blog since day 1, and maybe they just didn’t like the way I looked. Maybe I looked like an easy target.
2. They hated hearing about my success – In the beginning, I used to write more about how much money I make on this blog. I don’t do that very much anymore (maybe it’s a result of these comments, I don’t know). Some people hate hearing about others’ successes.
Whichever it was, it was coming from nowhere. It wasn’t something that I can fix. And it was something that wasn’t just happening to me.
There was nothing I could or should try to fix the problem. It would be a waste of time.
Over time the comments stopped
Every time the person commented, I would delete it. They clearly wanted to remain anonymous since they never put their real name or email, so I could never contact them.
I ignored it.
And about a month or two later, the comments stopped.
The person just went away. Hopefully, not to a new target but I was still glad that I didn’t have to read something nasty about me every time I hit publish.
Since then, I’ve had a few more negative comments posted on my blog, but nothing ever as nasty as this person’s.
The other ones were actually published. They didn’t have any malicious meaning behind their comment, they just voiced their opinion, which was different than mine.
In these cases, I published them and responded to them, respecting their opinion and thanking them for voicing them.
Understand their intent and meaning behind the comment
This is the most important thing I’ve learned from dealing with negative comments on RankXL.
Always try to interpret the person’s motive, tone, and intention behind posting the comment on your blog.
If someone posts something negative purely out of hate with only the intention to hurt you, then just ignore it and don’t publish it.
Don’t get hurt by it. This kind of stuff happens all the time on the internet. It can be shocking and depressing to see them for the first time, but just understand that they’re pretty meaningless.
Most likely, the person already felt satisfaction knowing you saw the comment. You don’t need to publish it and pour fuel on the fire by responding. You will never win against someone with unlimited time, and a desire to hurt you.
On the other hand, if you see a negative comment that is not written out of hate, then you should publish it. They weren’t trying to hurt you.
In this case, you should address the comment. Reply in a respective manner. Don’t get heated. Despite what trollers might believe, it’s possible to have a disagreement in opinion in a smart and respectful way.
On RankXL, there are currently over 3000 blog comments.
Over the years, less than 10 of them were unposted because they were truly negative and hurtful with no value behind it.
That’s a tiny percentage out of the overall count of blog comments. It still does sting when you read nasty things about you, but just remember that the majority of people are on your side.
Out of all my comments, over 90% of them are words of thanks and praise for posting my content on and sharing it with them. That should affect you greater than a single negative comment.